This is the easy part, right? Your best man is just your best mate, or perhaps your brother? Maybe, but it’s not always that straightforward. Your best man needs to be more than just some guy who is capable of not losing a ring and stringing a few words together after your wedding breakfast.
First up, being Best Man is an honour. And that in itself puts you, as the groom, in a huge position of power. Use this power wisely! Tempting as it might be, don’t just automatically go with the guy who offers to take you to Vegas on your stag do. While he might be the ultimate party animal and organiser of legendary lads’ trips abroad, what will he be like on the big day itself? Is he going to be capable of responding to a last minute crisis, helping your day run as smoothly as it possibly can, or is he more likely to hilariously filling your Calvins with Deep Heat while you’re taking your last shower as a single man?
Often overlooked in the best man selection process is what I like to call ‘Bride to be Blessing’. Her opinion counts lads, it’s her big day too and she won’t want it wrecked by Smiffy from Thursday night 5-a-side being so wasted he can’t manage a single word of his speech. The other side of this coin though is that she’ll most likely be in favour of you choosing that lad from Uni she likes. he’s teetotal, and thinks a wild night involves staying up until Midnight watching Simpsons repeats. Avoid.
So, if you’ve got a mate/relative that’s fun, has got your back, but most importantly is totally reliable, sign him up. Now. But might be still worth checking your Calvins on the big day?